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Op-Ed: A Rebuttal to Alain de Botton’s Second-Wave Atheism

Commenter Casey responded to our earlier summary of Alain de Botton’s Seattle talk, and did so at such length, we were prompted to give him his own post. Casey can be found more regularly at Transmit-Receive.

I was nudged by quite a few friends to see if I wanted to see Alain de Botton speak. I refused the invitation after watching his 20-minute-long TED talk on the same subject.

As an atheist (as is, likely, a hefty majority of deBotton’s intended audience), not only do his suggestions come off as naive, but dangerous in advocating the creation of new ideological projects using religions as their model. I would’ve thought we’d have learned our lessons from the 20th century’s failed utopian projects.

Despite the stereotype that all atheists are liberal in their political persuasions, the only real correlation I can draw between atheism and politics are a pervading inclination to anti-authoritarianism. To the atheist, any fraternity, political party, or sports team which asks for the subversion of the self for “the cause” is, at the root, mimicking what is dangerous about religion (and consequently, about all “sacred cows,” both secular and sacerdotal).

Suggesting the need to remedy the apparent societal crisis by reconciling atheists with believers with the formation of a church, holding erudite sermons, or creating other quasi-spiritual public rituals as a way to access some type of “wisdom,” is an appeal to submission and the surrender of rational thought.

I sense that de Botton is attempting to play the role of the ecumenical peacekeeper in the wake of the more intellectual or vitriolic attacks from other popular atheists like Dawkins (religion is biologically-driven delusion), Hitchens (religion is implausible ideological poison), or Harris (religion is a problem of conversation). His thesis seems to be derived from the idea that there is a wound that needs healing, namely finding a function for sheltered, curmudgeonly, antisocial atheists in the Great Spiritual Machine so that they can be “welcomed back into the fold” of polite society.

A separate (and far messier) discussion de Botton unfurls here is the role of so-called “spiritual” experience, or the lack thereof. Indeed, there are some human experiences that are difficult to reconcile with a strict materialist view of reality. It is tempting for the materialist to catalogue these experiences in the same phylum as delusion, hallucination, or some other type of cognitive failure.

Yet the validity of this aspect of reality, I argue, should not be downplayed or denigrated by atheists. In the same way that those who label themselves “spiritual” or “religious” practice an equally regrettable condescension in asserting that atheists must be deficient or deluded in some way because of their denial of the potential of these experiences. Undoubtedly, humans do feel things which are mysterious, those that of us that are skeptical of the existence of souls, parallel realities or transcendent beings would do well to not deny the personal (and real) nature of so-called spiritual experience in favor of an attitude which says, “How can I learn more about this?”

Additionally, I find it unsettling to have a conversation about what “spiritual” is, as the meaning of the word has so many divergent applications (appropriated by too many provacateurs, charlatans, and obscurantists) that it has moved into the neighborhood of words like “socialist,” drained utterly of comprehensible meaning. I concede that de Botton has probably felt deeply spiritual when reading British poetry, I too have felt such a thing in my clearly impoverished, emotionally-stunted existence. For me, it was an unusually profound, tear-inducing, heart-swelling tsunami of emotion on watching the first episode of Carl Sagan’s Cosmos. But, I’m not rushing out to create The Church of Starstuff with “Sagan as Our Prophet.”

Personally, I find de Botton’s attempts at this kind of ideological fusion flawed from their inception. Religion (lower case “r”) places us at the intersection of ideology and identity. Once incorporated in the individual, these two become inseparable.

But atheism is neither an ideology nor an identity, as such. Atheism is merely the lack of belief of theistic claims (atheists enjoy satirizing this confusion by noting that “bald is not a hair color” and “not collecting stamps is not a hobby”). Accordingly, apart from a category label (a placeholder if you will), atheism says nothing substantive about the identity of an atheist.

As Sam Harris points out, we don’t have a label for “Not a Witch,” and we don’t form non-profit organizations, blogs, and Facebook pages rallying around all the cause of “Not-Witchism.” The current public face of atheism is, in actuality, the work of antitheism, a related but altogether separate political and ideological platform. The confusion is understandable because the antitheists uses “Atheism” as the rallying cry and, when challenged, theists resort to an oversimplified dualism to rally support. To present the label “atheist” as the reverse side of dualistic theist worldview is to profoundly misunderstand the nature of epistemological structure of human belief.

In response to de Botton (and those like him): I am not broken. Please don’t try to create hymns and sermons and Super Bowl socials on behalf of my impiety. I’ve got better things to do with my Sundays.

The Plight of the Loud Kid in France’s School System

Mindy Jones is a Seattleite living in Paris for two years with her husband and two kids. Her daily life does not include romantic walks along the Seine, champagne picnics on the Pont des Arts, or five-star gourmet dinners. For a realistic take on life in a fantasy place, visit her blog, An American Mom in Paris.

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Exhibit A: A group of four-year-olds reading quietly together on the left. My son (but with an accomplice!) wrestling something to the ground on the right. Different.

Meticulously handcrafted parakeet costumes for the school Carnavale parade

A preschool in winter

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The kids are almost back in school. Thank God, say the parents. In France, this time of year is known as La Rentrée, and is also when all Parisians return from their month-long vacations in the South. Every parent in the school will be richly tanned on the first day back; I will be sporting my standard ghostly pallor. It’s just one more way to announce myself as a foreigner.

Our school experience in France has included three years of the public école maternelle, the hardcore equivalent of our American preschool. I say “hardcore” because preschool isn’t a bunch of kids singing nursery rhymes and playing with blocks here. It’s serious business.

The French école maternelle is a full eight-hour day, four days a week. At our school, the kids tackle subjects and skills not usually taught in the States until kindergarten or beyond. There are four-year-olds counting to a hundred, doing basic reading, and writing Chinese characters. In short, these kids are more advanced than I am. It’s impressive but the flip-side is exhausted kids on the verge of nervous breakdowns. Our son has been known to ask for a stiff drink at the end of a long day.

The teachers are kind but firm, and make it clear the classroom is their domain; there is no parental involvement in a French classroom. If you offer on the first day to be a “room mother,” you’re going to receive a mystified look in response. If you pair the offer with a big eager-to-please American smile, you’re just playing into stereotype and embarrassing yourself. (I don’t know this from experience, not at all).

Even though we’ve been impressed by the teachers and overachieving academics of French preschool–just look at those meticulously handcrafted parakeet costumes for the school Carnavale parade–it has not been a great match for our son. With the level of seriousness surrounding school, kids are expected to behave accordingly. We, however, have what is known in polite company as “a very American child.” If he’s awake, he’s jumping up and down. He has only one volume and it’s loud (his father has that same volume and, no, my life is not an easy one).

For one small example of how his personality stands out among his more subdued classmates, one can observe the folding of the bibs. During his first year of preschool, each child was required to fold their bib after lunch. Every three-year-old in the class took off their bib, folded it into quarters, and placed it nicely in a basket. My kid rolled his into a ball, took a flying leap towards the pile and slam dunked it on top with a “WHEEE!” The teachers noticed the difference, and were concerned.

We have teacher friends in the States who know our son and say things like, “He’s all boy.” In France, however, teachers say things like, “Your son needs a psychologist.” We didn’t know what to make of the difference in opinion, so indeed took him to see a school psychologist. The psychologist didn’t have any grave concerns about our loud son and said many of his problems at school could be attributed to cultural differences.

According to the psychologist, there’s a “let kids be kids” mindset in the States whereas in Paris–especially our kind of snobby area of Paris–it’s more “make kids be silent small adults.” She also acknowledged that in the States, individuality is valued. We accept, even admire, people who think differently and march to the beat of their own drummer. In France, conformity is the only way to go. Standing out in the crowd will earn you a one-way ticket to a psychologist.

Unfortunately, our son’s personality paired with the French intolerance for our son’s personality means he’s always in trouble at school. At one point last year, he was moved to a different lunch hour, no longer with his classmates, and was put at a table by himself to be taught a lesson about staying in his seat during lunch. He was four years old at the time, and the lunch period is an hour long–harsh much, France? (Hey, an hour lunch! Sweet!–ed.)

Even I find it hard to sit in my seat for an hour, as evidenced by the ten thousand times I’ve gotten up to get a mouthful of baguette while writing this article. And if I was four years old and put by myself at a table in a roomful of people I didn’t know, I would probably jump out of my seat constantly to figure out where all my damn friends wandered off to. It seems too much to ask of a four-year-old to stay seated and quiet for an hour, but the French kids seem to have an easier time of it so I really don’t know what the hell’s going on over here.

The American education system is not a flawless one and there will be challenges at home, too. But when we return, we hope there’s a place for him there; we hope there are more creative ideas for dealing with his brand of energy besides embarrassing him or sending him to a shrink or making him eat his lunch alone on the roof of the school. We’re just hoping they don’t force us to medicate him, because then he may forget all those wonderful Chinese characters.